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How Life Changes in a Moment

I was working from home last Friday. I'm in the middle of taking over a project that is 9 months overdue and has a critical delivery by December 1. +1 called and asked if the kids were up. They weren't (I, 23, lives with us at the moment - a boomerang child and C, 15, is spending the month with us during his summer holidays). +1 said he's coming home ... he'd been laid off.

He'd worked at the mental healthy hospital for 12 years but we were reading the tea leaves in January and suspected this was coming down the pike ... someone on the board had it in for him. It's nonsensical but businesses, even non-profit ones, don't necessarily operate rationally.

So we had a good Father's Day weekend and nothing more was said. We gathered the boys last night and delivered the news.

On the upside, my employer has offered domestic partner health benefits for 2 years now. +1, I and C are on my health plan so we don't have to worry about health insurance. I have a good job with good prospects so the bills should continue being paid.

I encouraged +1 to think about a more fundamental question -- where does he want to live. We've been in H-town because of his job and for the youngest but this is an opportunity to cast a broader vision of possibilities and they don't need to be restricted to this city. So he's thinking about that.

Life goes on. Work needs to be done. The kids need to be taken care of.

A, 20, who had her first child a year ago January got engaged over the weekend. J, her boyfriend and the father of their child, proposed and then announced another addition to the family due in November. They're taking the hard road but at least they're both stepping up to it. Their wedding is in August.

It's gonna be a busy summer.

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mrdreamjeans
Jun. 19th, 2012 03:54 pm (UTC)
So good to see a post from you!
cqg
Jun. 20th, 2012 01:10 am (UTC)
I have been truant, haven't I :)
legolastn
Jun. 20th, 2012 03:51 pm (UTC)
Wow, big news!

What's your top 5 or 10 alternative places to live?
cqg
Jun. 26th, 2012 11:55 pm (UTC)
Denver, Seattle, LA, Portland and someplace in the UK
latestarter
Jun. 25th, 2012 04:01 pm (UTC)
Woah. A bit of a curveball.

As you say, best to view it as an opportunity. Best wishes with all that follows. Obviously not the ideal economic climate anywhere for jobs at the moment, but they must be out there somewhere.

... and good to see you on LJ!
cqg
Jun. 26th, 2012 11:57 pm (UTC)
we're gonna be fine. A just has to get his head wrapped around it and view it as the opportunity that I do. I'm giving him grace to do that.
rainbownarnia
Sep. 2nd, 2012 11:03 pm (UTC)
Status update?....
Just catching back up with you - finding your posts even spottier than mine...

So, any decisions? Any leanings or leadings?

As someone used to needle me... "If you're OK, poke your head up and say so. And if you're *not* OK, poke your head up and tell us what we should be praying about...."

And, btw.... happy birthday....
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